Fast forward to now. The twins are 6 months old. Brennan isn't quite 2 and a half, but he seems to have matured so much. Our days have the same "bones" as they did in November, but the "meat" is different. It still feels like chaos, but a controlled chaos. Sure, some days are just bad, especially lately with Beckett's sleep issues, but for the most part, we're getting this down. And it took reading that post for me to feel that way. Yes, I can do this. I AM doing it.
Most parents of multiples will tell you that you just need to survive the first year. Just.Survive. Most days I feel like we're surviving. And some days, I even feel like we're thriving.
I want to write down another day-in-the-life post. I want to have something for my future self to read in a few months so that I can see how far we've come again. And I want to have something my future self can read in a few years and look back and laugh at. And something that my future self can read in a few decades and dream about the days when my boys were babies. And if another
Here's a peek at what those surviving days look like.
6:30-7:00 a.m. - The babies start to wake up. I get the coffee going and bottle feed Kiernan (and nurse him if he'll have me). When he's done, I nurse Beckett. Commence baby playtime (which is includes physical therapy exercises).
7:30-8:00 a.m. - Brennan wakes up. I get him his milk and get in a quick pumping session while enjoying my coffee.
9:00 a.m. - Time to start soothing babies to sleep. While Brennan is watching Mickey Mouse, I head to the nursery with Kiernan. He drinks his bottle fairly quickly and we rock in the dark room. He goes into his crib awake and I give him a few minutes to fall asleep on his own. Meanwhile, I make Brennan some breakfast and strap him into his high chair to eat. Usually by now Kiernan is almost out and I head to the nursery with Beckett. He drinks his bottle and falls asleep in my arms. I put him in his bed.
9:30 a.m. - Get myself and Brennan dressed. Make and eat oatmeal. Playtime with Brennan.
10:30-11:00 a.m. - The babies start to wake up. I bottle/nurse Kiernan and nurse Beckett. Playtime. Maybe head outside to get some vitamin D.
12:00 p.m. - Lunchtime for Brennan. Pump time for mom.
12:30 p.m. - Get Brennan ready and put him down for a nap by 12:45-1:00.
1:00 p.m. - Time for babies' afternoon nap. Same ritual as morning nap.
1:30 p.m. - Lately I've been jumping on the treadmill before or after I eat a quick sandwich. Some days I clean. Every once in awhile I'll treat myself to a nap. Sometimes I pump.
2:30-3:00 p.m. - Babies start to wake up. Bottle/nurse Kiernan and nurse Beckett. Baby playtime.
3:30-4:00 p.m. - Brennan wakes up. Snack time for him. Pump if I'm lucky.
This is where I start to follow baby cues. The evening can go one of 2 ways - either the babies cat nap for about an hour at 5:00 p.m. and go to bed around 8:00 p.m., or they're still going strong at 5:00 and I just put them to bed for the night at 6:00 p.m. More often lately, they've been out for the night at 6:00 p.m. And when this happens, they usually sleep all the way through the night. YAY!
6:30 p.m. - Brian gets home. Dinner.
8:00 p.m. - Get Brennan ready for bed by 8:30. Bath, PJs, brush teeth, read books, etc. Brian usually does this while I start cleaning the aftermath of the day.
9:30 p.m. - Toys picked up, dishes done, bottles washed. Collapse on the couch. And then pump.
Of course, this is a perfect world scenario. Many days are different. But it all gets accomplished one way or another. I keep reminding myself that it's only temporary. And that one day I will look back and laugh and miss the days I got to spend snuggling my babies all day long.