When my parents were in town last weekend, I decided to try
out a different Catholic church in the area.
We live about 2 minutes from our current church, but I’ve never felt all
that connected there. The people are
nice enough, but it just doesn’t necessarily scream “you know you want to come
spend an hour here every weekend” to me.
I take Brennan to a Mom’s Morning Out program at a Catholic
church that is about 15 minutes from our house.
I absolutely love their childrens’ program, so I thought I’d see what
Mass was like there. At first, I was
pretty impressed. The people seemed
friendly, there were a TON of young families there, and the church itself was
beautiful and modern. They even have TV
screens to follow along with the new responses/Creed. (side note for all you Catholics: I’m never
going to be able to memorize that new Creed.
“And with your Spirit”, OK. But
freaking “consubstantial with Father” kills me every.single.time.)
The priest officiating the Mass seemed very pleasant, as did
the deacon who was concelebrating. When
it came time for the homily, the man who I recognized as the pastor (from
scoping out their website) came forward to preach. I immediately liked his laid back preaching
style and at first loved his message.
The gospel that day was about sin (Matthew 5:29-30). The priest spoke of the
temptations and sins that youth today are confronted with – drugs, gangs, sex. He recalled a speaker that had recently given
a speech at the church on this topic who had spoken at a school which had 120
pregnant teens in its student body. He
spoke of the prevalence and easily available “adult material” in today’s
society. And just when I thought that
the drug problem in today’s society would be his next topic, he spun around and
landed on a topic that I never in a million years would have even dreamed
should be lumped into the same category as drugs and gangs … homosexuality.
Oh yes. Apparently he
stumbled upon the TV series “The New Normal” on which a gay couple in a
committed relationship adopts a baby.
And apparently he’s more appalled that a committed, loving couple
raising a child in their stable, loving home simply because they both happen to
be male than he is about the drug problem we have in America today. He got all fired up and said, “Now am I alone
in thinking that it’s really sad if this is becoming the ‘new normal’?” And you know what? People
clapped. The old man next to me actually said
“Amen!”.
You guys, I’ve never felt so much hatred in one room in my
entire life. Nor have I ever wanted so
badly to run from a building so badly.
And grab my babies and get the hell away from that awful man and those
awful people who could spew such hatred.
But I was kind of frozen in disbelief.
Disbelief that this could be happening while in a house of God. That such a mean reaction could come from a
group of hundreds of people who were gathered together to celebrate Jesus
Christ, who preached a message of love
and acceptance.
Admittedly, I was already a bit fired up about the topic as
my parents and I had discussed it earlier in the weekend. My Dad is a deacon. My parents, while liberal in their religion,
are still conservative in their politics and quite devout Catholics. They don’t believe in same sex marriage. They believe that this belief is scripturally
based – that it all comes back to the book of Genesis and Adam and Eve and a
rib.
Look. I spent 13
years of my life attending Catholic school.
For most of my life I went to Mass every single Sunday. My Dad is a deacon and my Mom works in a
Catholic school. I get it - The Catholic
church does not condone homosexual actions.
It’s “scripture based”. But I
have yet to get a legitimate answer from someone when I ask “then why does the
Church say that it is acceptable to do so many other things that are condemned
in the Bible?”
I’m really not trying to be a shit disturber. Really.
I just want to be able to understand.
The God that I grew up knowing is a loving, accepting God. The Jesus that I grew up learning about
preached love and acceptance. He
surrounded himself by outcasts . I just
can’t comprehend how He would not condone whole-hearted love between two
people. It just doesn’t make any sense to me. AT ALL.
I have family members and close friends that are gay. They are all wonderful people and deserve to
be able to marry whomever they choose. I
hate that they have to put up with so much intolerance in this world. More than anything, I hate to imagine my boys
growing up in a world where they would be met with hatred and intolerance if
they happen to be gay and fall in love with another man. My heart would hurt so badly for them if they
couldn’t reap all the benefits of a happy, loving marriage that their Daddy and
I have been able to.
Sister Pat Farrell, the president of the LCWR (Leadership
Conference of Women Religious), was interviewed
on NPR about the recent controversy between the LCWR and the Vatican. Long story very short, the Vatican is upset
with the LCWR (which represents 80% of American nuns) for not upholding the
teachings of the Church (you can find out way more about it in the interview
with Sister Pat and the opposing view
interview with Bishop Leonard Blair … his interview makes me crazy, but
whatever). And it’s not that they aren’t
upholding them, they just don’t see certain things as as much of a priority as
the Vatican does. They prefer to help
the poor and the sick and the underserved.
To love EVERYONE. So when asked
why they don’t just leave the Roman Catholic church if the Vatican is going to
give them so much trouble, Sister Pat replied, “Because it’s my church too.” So true Sister Pat, so true.
With all that said, I’m not ready to leave the Catholic
church. Out of all religions I’ve
encountered in my 29 years on this earth, it’s the one that makes the most
sense to me … frustrations and all. And
also? Why not stay and try to change it
from the inside? Why not try to become
involved in a parish that is intolerant and try to teach tolerance and love and
acceptance? I guess the most important
thing is to find a parish that I feel like I can work within and go from
there. First step? Email this priest.
I can't even tell you how much I agree with this post. Every single word typed. I too am Catholic and can proudly say so, but MAN, there are a few things, like the one mentioned above that I struggle with. I totally agree that our God is a loving and accepting God. "Jesus loves the little Children, all the Children of the world, Red, yellow, black & white........." All of these homosexuals were once children and just like every mother, God never stops loving his children no matter the "sins" they commit. Thanks for this post!!
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